CULTIVATING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
In times of loneliness, building friendships and relationships are vital to our healthy life. The Lord created us to function and exist in communities. We need each other, we were created to rely on one another in various ways. As believers and followers of the Lord, we need to be in a community, fellowship with one another and discover our identity in God.
Sometimes people simply need a friend who can relate to their experiences; who they can really open up with and have a meaningful and deep conversation. Godly friendships are one of the most precious relationships you should build. The people that you choose to relate with should help you grow in your relationship with Jesus.
You need friends that can consistently encourage and build you up. You need friends that are full of encouraging thoughts, genuine care and have wealth of scriptures. You need friends that won’t allow you wallow in self-pity. Friends that can give you godly advice based on the scripture and help you figure out what God would actually want you to do in whatever situation you are in.
Cultivating healthy relationships that shows Christ in word, in purity, in conversation and in lifestyle is very important, as shown in the scripture below:
Proverbs 13:20 – “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
Good biblical friendship will always point you back to Christ when you are down. Make friends who will pray with you and then go home and pray some more about it.
A healthy relationship should reflect God in how we relate with one another through words and actions. A godly friend should exemplify the fruits of the spirit in your interaction.
‘Are your friends helping you to grow in your relationship with Christ?’ If they aren’t, you need to make sure you are strong enough to stand as a witness instead of staying without growing in Christ. It is necessary that you set boundaries in these types of friendships so that you are separated from God. You may have to even give up the relationship or (relationships) so that you keep Jesus your priority. Sometimes friendships are usually as a result of God placing them in your path. However, just as you need a godly friend in your life you also need to be a godly person too.
Proverbs 27:17 – “Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.”
‘Are you willing to lay down your life, as Jesus died, for the people you call friends?’
Your friendships should make your heart glad. Do you have tons of friends, but not many (or any) that can really open up to and talk about life? Don’t force their friendship, and if you are feeling alone or broken, in time God will bring a special person or people into your life. Pray on this to God because He knows your every need.
It is important to know that though our friends are children of God, they are not all/yet perfect. A godly friendship will thrive when you can see the person the way they truly are and love them without pretending to be who you are not. Your friends would have shortcomings, and may fall short sometimes but don’t look down on them. You should work it out with them and encourage each other as Christ as loved you.
You need someone by you, walking with you on your journey to God. Any friendship less than this should be reconsidered. Take a deep look into who you call friends, review, sieve and reselect. If you follow a man with no intention of travelling at the airport, you might just miss your flight!