GLAD DAD AND GLAD KIDS
Its amazing how we humans sometimes play one important truth of life against another. One area this is especially true in the contributory roles of the fathers and mothers in the training of children. The indispensable contribution of mothers to the upbringing of children from the crib to adulthood has often been emphasized. This is rightly so. Mothers are usually very close to and exert great influence on their children.
The problem however lies in the very real possibility of overstating the mother’s part as to completely erase the essential contribution of the father to raising good children. The traditional stereotype, is that the father wins the bread while the mother watches the bed. Many men find this simplistic arrangement very convenient because it exempts them from the strenuous responsibility of child training and absolves them of blame if the venture fails.
The scripture however do not agree with the fathers who think all they have to do is provide the money, while the mother single handedly works the miracle of nurturing desirable kids. Indeed, there are many scriptures too many ignore that places the responsibility of child training jointly upon the shoulders of fathers and mothers. Prov 4:1-4, Prov 23:22, Isa 38:16-19, Eph 6:14.
Most happy children that you see are products of a mothers tender care and father’s firm discipline. We must not make the mistake of thinking through that the mother is all love without discipline and the father all discipline without love. Both play complementary roles in child training and both are called upon at different times to serve the child’s appropriate menu’s of love and discipline. Children are like wild roses, very beautiful but requiring severe pruning. Mothers tend the petals but father’s prune the stem. Both functions are neccesary to present a pleasantly appealing spectacle.
Beyond catering to the family’s financial needs, Fathers have a peculiar role to play in the lives of their children. Their mainly firmness especially suits them to the duty of laying down family rules and enforcing discipline. God expects it to be so, the demands of a work day world and the size of the household notwithstanding.
Abraham had a large household of children and servants but God was satisfied with his performance as a father. Men and women having rejected the right ways of the lord are giving free reign to their passions and breeding children without moral anchor. God gives grace for our trails not for our excesses. Every father should take time out of his busy life to reflect upon his fatherhood and learn ways to become a better ‘Dad’. Live your life in such a manner that will show the children how to do it.
Be a good father, train up your child with your wife and see him raised into greater heights.