Two days ahead of Valentine I was inside the research laboratory doing some analysis when I heard some ladies discussing about travelling to their boyfriend’s House for Valentine and that they’ve missed their boyfriends because they’ve held their bodies from sex for the past five months and they’ve tried. They started praising themselves and so on.
I could not believe my ears because both of them profess to be Christians and even bear bible names. The amazing thing was that they were proud of it. As I was wondering and thinking through the day about what my generation has tagged sex to be I met another colleague.
My colleague asked about the guy that is taking care of me through sex since I was adding weight and according to him it must have been through sex. I laughed and sat him down to engage him in a conversation just to hear his own view about sex before marriage. I am glad I was able to make my point clear to him on the ground in which I stand as regards sex before marriage.
Now to my point; please read carefully and slowly. Listen! Sexual purity is not negotiable. Sex before marriage is wrong. God did not create you to become one flesh to a man you are not married to. Sex before marriage is not making love because God is love and God is not in premarital sex.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. [19] What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? [20] For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
Abstinence in your relationship is a greater expression of love. Sex is special, many people might desire it from you but the only person that deserves it is your marital spouse. Can we place so much Values on ourselves that not everyone that comes around you takes advantage of you sexually. There are some goods you can’t pick in the supermarket and open the content except you have legally purchased it. Are you ‘garri’ that can be tasted to know whether its correct garri or mix breed? Or are you Suya that the ‘aboki’ man would have to cut for the buyer so it can be bought?
We tend to react in response to that inner demand in a wrong way. Manage that stuff in the lower part of you, otherwise, it will drive you into the mud and you get grounded. Be strong and take control of those appetite. I know it might be a real battle but you must win so your strength can be defined. Look away from that which is appealing to your extreme appetite.
A true man should love you beyond your body; yes he can be attracted to your body because you are fearfully and wonderfully made but he should see beyond the physical structures and should protect you and help in fulfilling God’s mandate. Please brothers commit yourself to the lord truly and dedicate yourself to him. Get God and stop doing test running all about.
Let an understanding of God’s word get dawn on you. You wouldn’t die not having sex; it’s the deceit of the devil that tells you that you can’t do without it. Brethren have survived and passed through that stage successfully so no excuse for you. Please keep the bed undefiled.
Remain incorruptible!
If you’ve fallen before, riseup! The father loves you so much.. Kindly retrace your steps… The beautiful thing is that its never too late to regain your purity and dignity back. Get your pastors or a leader that can counsel you and monitor you then be accountable to them. Remember no tasting until legally purchased……
Shalom!
Wunmi Oyesanya
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This is wonderful. Really, am blessed and God bless you too for blessing me. You’re deeply loved