The way our society talks about singleness is like it’s a disease that needs to be cured. How many times have you heard someone say, “He’s such a great guy, how is he still single?” or “She’s such a pretty lady, when will she get married off?. For many singles this imprint upon them a meaning that touches their very identities: they are low,defective, second class and somehow less than others who marry.
What does it mean to live as a single man or woman in today’s world? Some are single at 35, others at 50. Some are single by choice, others by undesired circumstance. Singleness ought not to be viewed as a problem, nor marriage as a right. God grants either as a gift. Singleness is a gift!.
Every man, single or married is made in God’s image. Therefore dignity is not conditioned on singleness or marriage. Our worth is rooted not in our marital status but in our creational status. Gen 1:27″ So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them”. We are to live perfectly as God’s image. The life of singleness therefore, is not in itself inferior to the life of marriage. Whether single or married, we can receive our live situation as a good and wise gift from God.
As a single person, see God has sufficient. See that God is better than anything, or anyone else. Keep pursuing God and let your partner meet you in the pursuit of God. You are God’s assignment, so if any man finds you, he should find you doing the assignment. Singleness is a calling not an identity. The identity of a Christian is that which defines him at his core, his firmly rooted never to be moved, in his union with Jesus Christ. The love that God has for him is what defines him. Whether your calling is to singleness or marriage, your identity in Christ is the same.
Embrace the unique opportunities you have as a single person. As an unmarried person, there is a unique freedom you have that will allow you to serve in diverse ways that may not be possible with a family. Enjoy the freedom your schedule allows. Go on mission trips, travel for programmes, build depth of relationship with friends, stay longer in God’s word, and read inspiring books that fuels your faith.
Rather than staying home worrying about a date, thinking, crying or desiring you wish you had a partner that can bring suprise cards, rose flower e.t.c
Can you realize how much valuable time has been entrusted to you at this point of your life? Embrace your single minutes, hours, days with Joy. Stop limiting yourself by self pity. Your waiting period is the most precious answer God can give you. God sees the outcome, so cling to him because he knows what you need; you do not, He sees the future; you cannot, His perspective is eternal; yours is not, He will give you what is best for you when it is best for you.
Whenever the restlessness of singleness, captures your mind, or you are overtaken by the thoughts of being disadvantaged as a single lady or guy just take a moment to commit that care to where it belongs. 1 Peter 5:7 “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you”.
Could you please sit back and wait patiently in God. He will orchestrate the encounter. Jesus does have your best interest at heart. He desires to bless you by giving you the best. He will one day bring your partner to you. Regardless of your occupation, location or any factor you think wouldn’t make you accessible, these roadblocks do not stop God. Trust that no matter where you are If God plans for you to marry, he will lead the right person to you at the right time. Just as God brought Eve to Adam, Rebekah to Isaac, Ruth to Boaz, he will surely do yours. Stop seeing the lack of a partner as God denying you of something very important. Our selfish nature tends to focus on what we don’t have rather than on what we do have. See you have the free time now! Learn new skills! Improve yourself! There are a lot to explore.
Your life must not be on hold because you don’t have someone to hold. Too many young women waste valuable years as they wait for life to begin after marriage. They later realize the priceless free time they waste until its gone. Keep yourself pure while you wait. In whatever season of waiting God might have you in, choose to bloom where you are planted. Happiness is not found through finding a soul mate, but through finding satisfaction in a loving saviour who has called you his own and made you a beloved son or daughter of the king. Stay glued to him we shall celebrate with you soon!