UNDERSTANDING SEX EDUCATION (3)
As we have discussed in part 1&2 Sex education is very important in the life of a child. In this series we shall be discussing about practical approaches to Sex education in our daily lives with our children.
You need to give your child first hand information about sex so it won’t be that the first time she or he would have opportunity to hear it would be from outside.
Be free with your child. Be approachable so that if any thing happens she might tell you. Be vigilante too. Watch her steps, reactions.
A lot of Youths have been abused when they were young, all in the name of lets do ”mummy and Daddy” and in the process some gets deflowered.
To leave your child with uncles,aunties, friends or neighbour is not a SIN but proper information and orientation about sex ahead will help your child not be harrased sexually.
Lesbianism amidst young adolescents is very common. Tell your child not to allow anyone to touch their privates part whether male or female. Tell your children what the name of their sexual organ is called. Tell them not to allow anyone to see or touch it. let them have a consciousness of sanctity and dignity right from their childhood stage.
Teach them how to sit, teach them what to wear. Tell them there are some parts that are not to be seen by the opposite sex. The way you dress speaks a lot about your personality,even when people have not come close to you.
Don’t call anybody your child’s husband or wife. Don’t tell her she’s uncle Lagbaja’s wife neither Sis Tamedu husband. They might not have the knowledge of what you really mean, there by interpreting it into another thing when you are not there. When you watch movies try to explain to that scene that denotes anything sexual whether kissing,hugging e.t.c Don’t just change the channel without explaining to the child. It can pass a wrong message across and when they are alone they can say let’s do what we saw in that film. please take note.
You need to be close to your children. ask questions frequently. Try to share your personal experiences with them.You can also share some of your mistakes with your children. It will help them. Let’s not have the orientation that they don’t need to hear it cos they might want to make use of it to their freedom. Research have shown that most things that happens in the life of a mother may likely happen in the daughters life, but it can be prevented from happening.
Know your child’s friends. if not all, take note about the names she or he mentions frequently and ask about them. Be observant! Be prayerful. Don’t always assume. Assumption may be dangerous.
Don’t cage your children. Its good to be disciplined and strict but please make them social a bit. All is not just about church! church!Church!. That is why we see children of ministers becoming something else when they get to school. When parents are too strict on the children,the moment they get freedom they become something else. Be social!! Take them to parties like birthday,weddings,anniversaries e.t.c Take them to beach or any relaxation center. pick a day, go to eatery, buy snacks ,ice creams e.t.c Let it be part of them so one useless guy will not come and deceive them with taking them to the eatery. Tell them they are beautiful or handsome as the case may be. so when one bobo says you are beautiful it as registered in their minds that my mum and dad do tell me such. In the little capacity you have satisfy them,make them happy and teach them how to be contended with what they have.
Don’t make life miserable for your children, don’t always act like a soldier and make your home a military zone that when you are not around your children are happy and thanking God but once they hear you are around ,they go to bed! No! It should not be.
In case your child is doing anything wrong, correct in love. Don’t just beat alone. tell them the things they should know about the offence they’ve committed. Train up your child in such a way that if he makes mistakes he or she can tell you. Don’t laugh at them and start telling everyone around what they’ve done. That’s why some youths aborts all in the name of my parents must not hear.
In conclusion, we all have our roles to play in the upbringing of our children and this first information counts a lot. May we not fail in our responsibilities.